Did you keep the receipt?
written by Yelena Kart, Contributing editor
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
Shakespeare might have had a good point in general – but when it comes to gift giving, he was definitely wrong. It may be the thought that counts in some ways – but it’s the gift that they have to live with. And some gifts are most definitely a bad idea.
So, in this season of lovey-dovey sweet gift guides, here is your anti-gift guide, your handy-dandy, completely non-comprehensive list of things that you should most definitely not buy for your loved ones.
- Anything Weight loss Related
On many levels, this gift may be well intentioned. Maybe your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend made that ubiquitous New Year’s resolution and is having trouble keeping it. Maybe you’re just trying to help. Maybe you thought they could learn to improve their cooking this year and a diet book seemed like the best idea. It wasn’t.
Put the diet book down and step away from the treadmill – even if it is 75% off. Valentine’s Day gifts, and really, any kind of gifts, are about showing the people that you love how much you love them. And diet books don’t say that. Because pointing out people’s flaws, whether real or imagined, doesn’t show love. It shows criticism, even if you don’t mean to.
So if you must buy that set of weights or workout videos or that shiny new elliptical, choose another day to buy it. Bring it home on some innocuous day, free of holiday pressure. And maybe just pick up a nice box of chocolates on the way home.
- Kitchen Appliances
Nothing says romance like a toaster…… except almost anything else. Your wife might want a new refrigerator or a new toaster oven. But she doesn’t want one for Valentine’s Day. I’m not sure exactly what message a toaster sends – probably something along the lines of “I really enjoy toast and wish we would have more of it.” But it’s not the message that you want to send your loved ones on Valentine’s day. So, no matter how nice you think that combination toaster/can-opener/fax machine is, save it for another day.
- Anything Re-Gifted
If you love someone, then you should love them enough to get them something specifically intended for them. However nice your misbegotten gift might be, it’s not for them. Take a little time and consideration to get them something that they would enjoy. Because if someone is worth getting a gift for, then it is worth putting some time and effort into that gift. You’ll feel better and so will they.
- Anything that you secretly want for yourself
Really guys, your wife does not want that set of wrenches or that circular saw. She doesn’t need a new tool kit…. and she probably isn’t yearning for that giant new flat screen tv you’ve been keeping your eye on. And ladies, your husband doesn’t particularly want that beautiful new set of Egyptian cotton linens with the high thread count. If it is something you want for yourself, the odds are your loved one isn’t going to be pleased with it. Valentine’s day isn’t about the gift, it’s about the consideration that you put into the gift. And getting your spouse something that you secretly want for yourself…. It certainly doesn’t say anything good about you.
This is really the worst gift – nothing at all. Even a single rose says something – that you love the person and that you care enough about them to say so. Gifts don’t have to be extravagant or expensive. They can be homemade. They can even be bought at the last minute, for the forgetful among us.
Gifts only really have one purpose – to show the people that we love that we care about them. And as long as your gift says that, it’s definitely the right one.
Still don’t have any ideas?
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written by Yelena Kart